Monday, June 11, 2012

Lynn Conway

Lynn Conway: Computer Scientist, Electrical Engineer, Inventor, 
Research Manager, Engineering Educator

My goal for this website is to illuminate and normalize the issues of gender identity and the processes of gender transition. This project began in the year 2000, as I struggled to "come out" about my past to my research colleagues. I wanted to tell in my own words the story of my gender transition from male to female three decades earlier, in 1968, and then of being outed 31 years later in 1999, while living quietly and successfully in "stealth mode".

Since beginning work on this website, I've come into contact with ever growing numbers of people concerned with gender issues. I've interacted via e-mail and in personal meetings with large numbers of people who are transitioning or who have transitioned. Given the still-remaining social invisibility, ignorance and superstitions about gender conditions, I've felt a strong need to provide whatever information, encouragement and hope that I can to help others who are struggling with these issues.

Here is Lynn's personal home page -- EXCELLENT, LOTS OF INFO

TS Women's Successes: Links and Photos by Lynn Conway

Here is an extensive group of successful trans woman with photos and background.
I recommend it highly. 

Chris Tina Bruce

Chris Tina Bruce is a male to female transgender who on October 29, 2011 became the first competitive Transgender Bodybuilder from San Diego, CA.

Trans Fit - The story of Chris Tina Bruce Transgender Bodybuilder and her 30 years of experience in the health and fitness industry.

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Tom Gabel announces he's transgender: What is gender dysphoria?

 Against Me! lead singer Tom Gabel surprised fans when he announced that he had decided to transition into a woman. Gabel described his long battle with gender dysphoria in Rolling Stone's latest issue, out on newsstands on Friday. The singer plans to undergo hormones and electrolysis treatments to remove unwanted body hair.
"I'm going to have embarrassing moments," Gabel said to Rolling Stone, "and that won't be fun. But that's part of what talking to you is about - is hoping people will understand, and hoping they'll be fairly kind."  It seems that fans in the online community is supportive, but understandably many people have questions about what "gender dysphoria" is and what transitioning to another gender might entail.
Dr. Vernon Rosario, associate clinical professor at UCLA, Department of Psychiatry, says that the disorder - previously known as gender identity disorder of adolescence and childhood - involves feeling uncomfortable with one's biological sex.  "It often causes one internal psychological discomfort," Rosario told HealthPop.
It is important to note that the disorder is not just that a person simply wants to change gender, but includes depression and feelings that come with the helplessness that you were born into sex you weren't supposed to be, Dr. Philip Muskin, professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University and chief of consultation-liaison psychiatry at Columbia Psychiatry, pointed out. These individuals feel like there is nothing in the world that can help them be the sex they feel they should be, leading to emotional problems. This often leads to higher rates of depression, anxiety and suicide, he said.

Not Just a Tomboy: Transgender at Age 5

The Washington Post reported this weekend on the story of a child who, although born physically a girl, insisted that she was a boy beginning at age 2. Eventually a psychologist diagnosed gender-identity disorder. Now the parents of "Tyler" allow him to live as a boy, and the 5-year-old is reveling in his new identity.

Kathryn wanted pants. And short hair. Then trucks and swords.
Her parents, Jean and Stephen, were fine with their toddler’s embrace of all things boy. They’ve both been school teachers and coaches in Maryland and are pretty immune to the quirky stuff that kids do.

But it kept getting more intense, all this boyishness from their younger daughter. She began to argue vehemently -- as only a tantrum-prone toddler can -- that she was not a girl.

“I am a boy,” the child insisted, at just 2 years old.
And that made Jean uneasy. It was weird.

“I am a boy” became a constant theme in struggles over clothing, bathing, swimming, eating, playing, breathing ...
From the Washington Post:

The beautiful boy said to his mother, “I want to be a girl.”

Looking up from the changing table, the beautiful boy said to his mother, “I want to be a girl.”

This was not a passing phase. At 3, Mark asked to dress for Halloween as Dora the Explorer; his parents bargained him down to Darth Vader, which at least featured a cape. At 5, he insisted on trick-or-treating as Gabriella Montez, the High School Musical sweetheart. By then, his birthday parties were girl-only, with girl-only themes. Any boy toys received were instantly re-gifted to a cousin.

At first, his mom was “all Free to Be You and Me about it,” she says, willing to let Mark experiment within reason. But whose reason? The neighborhood’s? (The Benders, as I’ll call them, live in a conservative suburb in the tri-state area.) Their own?  They of course loved Mark, the middle of their three sons, but worried that permission amounted to encouragement. As for Mark’s “reason”—well, as many people trying to be helpful pointed out, it was pre-rational, as if this diminished instead of intensified its authenticity. Who credits a child’s wishes? Their youngest son wanted to be Spider-Man.

But the Benders knew that Mark’s desire was different: It went far deeper than a costume donned or discarded. When asked to explain himself, he’d say things like, “I want to have long hair that moves.” The Benders would counter: Well, there’s the dad at the bus stop whose hair is like that, and he’s a boy; you can be a boy like that. “But I don’t want to be aboy with those things,” Mark would answer. “I want to be a girl with those things.” The more he pushed, the more they worried, and the more desperate his rhetoric became. “Why did God make me this way?” he cried. “I don’t like myself.” “I hate myself.” “I want God to take me up to the clouds and bring me back down as a girl.”

Through her reading on the subject, Mark’s mother gradually came to feel that she and her husband had to be that “God” for their son. But it took Mark’s implicit threats of self-harm to convince his dad. “I’m in a conservative business; I sell software,” he says. “I want the normal life. And this was gonna be different, when my son is getting out of the car in a dress in front of everybody. But then you have to think about who are you protecting? Yourself or your kid? People would say, ‘I can’t believe you’d let your kid do that. That’s abuse.’ I’ll tell you what’s abuse: suicide. Do you want a live daughter or a dead son?”

So the Benders, recognizing a tidal wave, stopped trying to hold it back, and instead tried to channel it. At the start, when Mark was in first grade, the result was what they sometimes call a “dual life,” or, more tellingly, a “half-life”: He was a “weekend and after-school” girl, tearing off his boy clothes the second he got home. But it soon became clear that this accommodation, which essentially told Mark he was “okay with us but not the world,” was untenable. Rules they erected to contain his feminine expression kept dissolving. At 6, Mark made a grand appearance at a pool party for his brother’s Little League team in a bikini. By his 7th birthday, the icing on his cake spelled MOLLY, and that’s who she has been in the two years since: “Molly 100 percent.”

Man Admitted to Hospital for Kidney Stone, Discovers He’s a Woman

from Meghan Stabler
Great story of finding out you are Intersex: Intersex is a term used to describe people who bear both external genitals and internal organs, such as testes and ovaries. A person with the condition may have male genitals along with fallopian tubes and ovaries.

ht Steve Crecelius nt 120524 wblog Man Admitted to Hospital for Kidney Stone, Discovers Hes a Woman
A Colorado man who was admitted to the hospital for a kidney stone received surprising news when the nurse came back with test results revealing he was actually a woman.
Denver photographer Steve Crecelius said he’s felt a little different all his life.
“When I was about 6 years old, I started having these feminine feelings, but that was in the ’60s. Wearing my mom’s makeup, I thought I looked pretty,” Crecelius told ABC News.
So when he went to the emergency room five years ago, he wasn’t too shocked when the nurse told him she found traits of both genders in his ultrasound results.
He was intersex, meaning he had both male genitalia and internal female sex organs.
“The nurse is reading the ultrasound and says, ‘Huh, this says you’re a female,’ Crecelius said. “It was very liberating. I had spent so much energy after the age of 13 constantly evaluating how people looked at me and acted towards me.”

"Worlds Youngest Transsexual" Kim Petras on "This Morning"

TV interview of German transgirl Kim Petras on the Morning Show. The interview draws a more realistic picture of Kim than in the CBS show "The Insider" on April 30, 2009. Kim speaks about her past as a boy and the latest single she has released: "Die for you".

Kim Petras was born on 27 August 1992 as Tim Petras. Her parents, Lutz and Konni, have said that from the age of two, she began insisting she was a girl. It slowly became apparent this was "not just a phase" and so her parents tried to be supportive but made her wear gender neutral clothes in public.
Eventually her parents sought professional help but struggled to find people who were knowledgeable on the subject. In time they found Dr. Bernd Meyenburg at Frankfurt University who was head of a clinic for children and had studied transsexuality since the 1970s. 

Part one of Sunday Night's segment on Kim and other children with "gender identity disorder".
Part two of Sunday Night's segment on Kim and other children with gender identity disorder.

Meghan Stabler - Transitioning in the Corporate Workplace

Meghan Stabler is a business executive, national LGBT activist, transsexual woman, and transgender advocate. Stabler shares her journey of transition, its impact on her career, and her advocacy. Meghan Stabler is a business executive, national LGBT activist, transsexual woman, and transgender advocate. She has served on the Human Rights Campaign’s Board of Directors since 2008 and is currently Senior Director and Executive Advisor at CA Technologies, a New York-based multi-billion-dollar IT management software and solutions company. Stabler shares with dot429 her journey of transition, its impact on her career, and the work she has done towards establishing equality in the corporate workplace.

“Transitioning gender in the workplace is like playing a chess game while spinning plates and herding cats,” says Stabler, who made her public male-female transition several years ago after much deliberation. “The business climate is not overly accepting, so you are already laying out multiple game plans based on the expected results and things that are currently happening. You have to think to yourself, ‘I want this down the road, and to make that happen, I need to have these conversations with these people and this policy in place.'" Stabler believes that policies accommodating transgender employees are necessary due to the lack of employee equality in corporate America.

Mother of Transgender Toddler Gets a Lesson in Love

When the author's fourth daughter insisted as a toddler that she was really a boy, it took years to figure out that he was really right.
My child is now ten. He transitioned at the age of five. By eighteen months I knew that this child, my fourth daughter, was different from the first three. In particular, she was very boyish, a characteristic which I had never thought about much before. Until Izzy, there were a lot of things I never thought about.
One of Izzy’s first sentences, even before she was two, was, “Me a boy, Mama.” I thought her confusion was cute. By the age of three, I discussed the issue with our pediatrician. By age five, I was in the doctor’s office again, and consulting a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist, who came with great credentials and was the head of the pediatric psych association here in Oregon, had no clue how to handle the situation. Our final meeting with him concluded with him stating: “For God’s sake, just let her be a lesbian.” Of course by this time I knew that gender and sexual identity were two different things. I was upset that there was so little help for children like mine, nor did I know of any other children like mine.
I then went to an endocrinologist, who drew some blood from Izzy for lab work. When discussing the results, we found that my child had been making both sets of hormones, estrogen and testosterone, in equal parts. We learned that in a child so young, however, hormones can ebb and flow, and that this was not conclusive to anything. So what could we think? The endocrinologist said our child was transgender, but that we should not let a lab test alter our path. In short, we should continue to do what is right for Izzy.